While many hold the true desire to heal their past experiences which haunts or hinders them from moving forward into the lives they wish to lead, fear of the unknown keeps them idle.
For many, the mere thought of taking another glimpse or perhaps closer look at their past experiences are wrought with concerns of what they will see or worse… what they will feel during this experience. More so, some fear of what they might find… thinking or believing they will learn of the ways they contributed to their experience or worse… that they actually brought these experiences upon themselves, leaving them to feel even worse than before even delving into the whole healing process. Additionally, when people read blogs or posting of how such painful experiences are inevitable during the healing process, this will only help to ensure the majority would rather live with the pre-existing discomfort they already feel and have established in their lives rather than conjure up any more painful emotions, tensions and anxieties revisiting their past or recent experiences through the process of healing.
Yet, in truth, when we learn to heal with safe and most effective ways, people realize that the current state of traumas they live in are far more detrimental and painful than the actual healing and releasing of the past.
Let’s use for example: A person making a dire mistake, wishing they could take it back but can’t. Now this “mistake” plagues them of the happiness they feel they no longer deserve for such acts committed and too in possible knowing the chances of the other person’s forgiveness is remote.
Innately, we somehow know or sense that by Divine design, we are very loving, caring, strong, sensible, capable beings. Yet, when we choose actions less pleasing to ourselves or others, these actions, or the relentless replays in our minds of such actions tend to divert us from that innate nature we are accustomed to. With this, we feel a deep sense of remorse for having diverted from such innate natures and feel we have either failed ourselves in our intent and purposes or we have failed others in the process. With such deep-seated emotions and guilts we place upon ourselves; we often do not know how to regroup or see past this emotional trauma we have created for ourselves and for others. It is in this knowing and sensing we have caused this or having allowed ourselves to fall into the pressures of the situation which led us to react in the fashions we did, that continues to hold us down. We do not wish to relive what we perceivably did “wrong” to ourselves and others, feeling such angst associated with them. Why rub it in any further?
Sadly, most healing methods today have people looking to their past or current life experiences as if to see who is at fault or who created this painful situation. Even though that may not be the intention of such healing experiences, it is the type of process that allows most to feel we are looking for the blame or the wrongs that were committed, to help us to understand why these “wrong choices” were made and how they were detrimental to our desired outcomes.
Rather, when we learn to work with tools based on love, empathy, compassion, and true willingness to gain knowledge as to why these experiences were needed, people learn that there actually is a much more empowering and profound reasons for such experiences to occur in the most positive sense.
Through these safe measures of healing, we still would take responsibility for such experiences, yet through love, empathy, and compassion we learn what lead us to act, react, think, or perceive the roles we played within the experience which we often find were brought on by fears, insecurities, doubt, etc. we are deserving of healing and letting go. We also learn more as to how these experiences which came into our lives were Divinely designed to help impact and empower our amazing gifts, abilities, and rights to be. To not doubt ourselves, our strength, worth, etc. Yet, compassionately learn we simply reacted out of fear due to protection and interest of self-love and acceptance in the best ways we knew how during those times. As such, through new understanding of self, we gain new or additional tools to help us not to repeat such patterns. We identify through compassion how others may have acted or reacted allowing ourselves to feel insecure or perhaps in some way threatened, heightening our defenses. To be able to identify resemblances of the same fears and insecurities in others as we face, not from a place of blame or shame, then how to apply new or additional tools comprised of empathy, compassion, and understanding… allowing us to lower our guard in such understandings and finding new/alternative ways to approach similar instances moving forward.
We too may innocently discover or uncover through our learned experiences, of human desires for instant gratification or too… fears of loss. Thus, various experiences presented may appear to expect immediate answers to our questions, immediate resolve and solutions to our problems, immediate responses from others in order to feel heard, understood, safe, loved, etc. As we go through the nurturing steps taken, we learn that some experiences trigger us to feel the need to react or act hastily without having proper time to tap into our innate self to find the answers most aligned. We feel pushed, rushed into knee-jerk reactions in order to appease others or to allow ourselves to instantly feel safe and still in control… we act or react to prove to others that we are on top of things, to ensure we do not loose all we had set out to gain or accomplish, etc. Yet, by having done so… not having the opportunity to weigh all sides and angles, we leap into things without being fully prepared and aligned… only to cause further complications, a sense of loss, and disappointments all the way around. And too resentments begin to set in. We then begin to act through such resentments we feel toward ourselves and others for having felt rushed, pushed, or prodded for an answer, a solution, a response.
Thus, through such experiences explored we can then safely identify the importance of how we operate, what we need to do for ourselves first and too for the sake of others involved in order to feel safe and ready before we give a response or take action; that it is perfectly acceptable and a respectful to utilize such tools by asking such questions to ourselves…” Do we wish to even partake in this situation and if so, which is the best way we feel ready and capable of proceeding?” To no let others intimidate us into immediate gratifications from us in order to feel safe, heard, etc. To not bully ourselves into believing we need to respond or act now, before we feel ready to proceed. We then begin to learn and identify tools for situations where others feel intimidated by our need to stop, take pause, and reflect. How to appropriately receive such reactions from them. Additionally, we learn too that any losses that do result even when we do things correctly, simply means it was time to move on as this situation, person or experience is no longer aligned for your highest good, that all has run its course, or that you are ready to move on to something more fulfilling and aligned as you too have grown from each experience and are now requiring more to fulfill the rest of your time and stay in this Earthly plane.
So even in having explored these examples above, we can see it is painless; yet rather empowering, helpful to see the higher points of view to aid us on your path… rather than with blame or shame, hanging onto painful memories that allows us to feel stuck.
This life was not designed for pass or fail, but rather to constructively, in healthy and balanced ways of fairness, teach us what we came here to learn through various explorations of self within each given opportunity and experience played. That through compassion and patience support ourselves and others as we continually explore, learn, and grow.
Many of us were taught by our schools, elders, life, etc. that when we do something “wrong or incorrectly,” we fail. This set in a precedent that is not only demeaning, but does not truly encourage us or enable us to feel good about ourselves for having at least made the true attempts in trying and doing what we perceived at the time to be our best, or too finding a gentler and more positive approach that by not trying we are only hurting ourselves.
Sadly, many teachers, elders, peers, or our flawed perceptions in life through fear, anger, resentments, etc. alluded us to believing we are given only one way or one solution in order to fit in or appease others, or to resolve the issues at hand. We were not always given the proper time or attention to teach us more than one method, one way of thought how to derive to the conclusions sought. Yet, people are not designed to think just one way or do things one way. Many of us will require a varied approach to formulate their rightful and valued conclusions. Yet by limiting our abilities to find the tools that best works for each of us, allows us to fall short by using just the one formulated measure taught, learned, or adapted to. Thus, we are given a lower mark or a rude awakening rather than helping or positively encouraging us to find an alternative that can also lead to those conclusions sought. If we had learned early on to accept that these so-called mistakes or failures are not wrong or just a part of life, but are essential, necessary, and natural tool we can utilize to aid us in our efforts in realizing there is more than one way to arrive to its conclusion safely and effectively; we can then feel encouraged to go after our successes by our willingness and eagerness to learning new methods and ways as we work with our mistakes to guide us to try again, finding another method that makes more sense. If we had learned this early on in life, we would then have been able to apply those same principles within our daily lives. No longer seeing ourselves as failures, stupid, or not enough to measure up… but rather on our way to success… encouraging and supporting us to keep trying and not give up.
Just think if our scientist, astronomers, medical professions, performing artists, designers and engineers stuck with only one method, formula, or theory. We would not progress very far. For it takes not only several right answers, but also several wrong answers to help us narrow down and find more than meets they eye. Why then should we limit ourselves in our ways of thinking or perceptions in which to learn, grow, evolve. For there is always more than one way to derive to its final conclusion.
Instead of holding in all these deep-seated emotions of regrets or perceived failures or wrong-doings, please take another healthier and much more productive and stable approach to healing. Applying some of these tools already suggested and too in finding those who know how to teach you to heal through such productive tools and measures that will make sense to you and make you feel safe within such beautiful and amazing experiences that we had previously encountered.
Healing should be a fun and enjoyable exploration… not one of fear, resentments, or pain.
Namaste
#healingjourney #healingtrauma #healing #selfawareness #selfdiscovery
For many, the mere thought of taking another glimpse or perhaps closer look at their past experiences are wrought with concerns of what they will see or worse… what they will feel during this experience. More so, some fear of what they might find… thinking or believing they will learn of the ways they contributed to their experience or worse… that they actually brought these experiences upon themselves, leaving them to feel even worse than before even delving into the whole healing process. Additionally, when people read blogs or posting of how such painful experiences are inevitable during the healing process, this will only help to ensure the majority would rather live with the pre-existing discomfort they already feel and have established in their lives rather than conjure up any more painful emotions, tensions and anxieties revisiting their past or recent experiences through the process of healing.
Yet, in truth, when we learn to heal with safe and most effective ways, people realize that the current state of traumas they live in are far more detrimental and painful than the actual healing and releasing of the past.
Let’s use for example: A person making a dire mistake, wishing they could take it back but can’t. Now this “mistake” plagues them of the happiness they feel they no longer deserve for such acts committed and too in possible knowing the chances of the other person’s forgiveness is remote.
Innately, we somehow know or sense that by Divine design, we are very loving, caring, strong, sensible, capable beings. Yet, when we choose actions less pleasing to ourselves or others, these actions, or the relentless replays in our minds of such actions tend to divert us from that innate nature we are accustomed to. With this, we feel a deep sense of remorse for having diverted from such innate natures and feel we have either failed ourselves in our intent and purposes or we have failed others in the process. With such deep-seated emotions and guilts we place upon ourselves; we often do not know how to regroup or see past this emotional trauma we have created for ourselves and for others. It is in this knowing and sensing we have caused this or having allowed ourselves to fall into the pressures of the situation which led us to react in the fashions we did, that continues to hold us down. We do not wish to relive what we perceivably did “wrong” to ourselves and others, feeling such angst associated with them. Why rub it in any further?
Sadly, most healing methods today have people looking to their past or current life experiences as if to see who is at fault or who created this painful situation. Even though that may not be the intention of such healing experiences, it is the type of process that allows most to feel we are looking for the blame or the wrongs that were committed, to help us to understand why these “wrong choices” were made and how they were detrimental to our desired outcomes.
Rather, when we learn to work with tools based on love, empathy, compassion, and true willingness to gain knowledge as to why these experiences were needed, people learn that there actually is a much more empowering and profound reasons for such experiences to occur in the most positive sense.
Through these safe measures of healing, we still would take responsibility for such experiences, yet through love, empathy, and compassion we learn what lead us to act, react, think, or perceive the roles we played within the experience which we often find were brought on by fears, insecurities, doubt, etc. we are deserving of healing and letting go. We also learn more as to how these experiences which came into our lives were Divinely designed to help impact and empower our amazing gifts, abilities, and rights to be. To not doubt ourselves, our strength, worth, etc. Yet, compassionately learn we simply reacted out of fear due to protection and interest of self-love and acceptance in the best ways we knew how during those times. As such, through new understanding of self, we gain new or additional tools to help us not to repeat such patterns. We identify through compassion how others may have acted or reacted allowing ourselves to feel insecure or perhaps in some way threatened, heightening our defenses. To be able to identify resemblances of the same fears and insecurities in others as we face, not from a place of blame or shame, then how to apply new or additional tools comprised of empathy, compassion, and understanding… allowing us to lower our guard in such understandings and finding new/alternative ways to approach similar instances moving forward.
We too may innocently discover or uncover through our learned experiences, of human desires for instant gratification or too… fears of loss. Thus, various experiences presented may appear to expect immediate answers to our questions, immediate resolve and solutions to our problems, immediate responses from others in order to feel heard, understood, safe, loved, etc. As we go through the nurturing steps taken, we learn that some experiences trigger us to feel the need to react or act hastily without having proper time to tap into our innate self to find the answers most aligned. We feel pushed, rushed into knee-jerk reactions in order to appease others or to allow ourselves to instantly feel safe and still in control… we act or react to prove to others that we are on top of things, to ensure we do not loose all we had set out to gain or accomplish, etc. Yet, by having done so… not having the opportunity to weigh all sides and angles, we leap into things without being fully prepared and aligned… only to cause further complications, a sense of loss, and disappointments all the way around. And too resentments begin to set in. We then begin to act through such resentments we feel toward ourselves and others for having felt rushed, pushed, or prodded for an answer, a solution, a response.
Thus, through such experiences explored we can then safely identify the importance of how we operate, what we need to do for ourselves first and too for the sake of others involved in order to feel safe and ready before we give a response or take action; that it is perfectly acceptable and a respectful to utilize such tools by asking such questions to ourselves…” Do we wish to even partake in this situation and if so, which is the best way we feel ready and capable of proceeding?” To no let others intimidate us into immediate gratifications from us in order to feel safe, heard, etc. To not bully ourselves into believing we need to respond or act now, before we feel ready to proceed. We then begin to learn and identify tools for situations where others feel intimidated by our need to stop, take pause, and reflect. How to appropriately receive such reactions from them. Additionally, we learn too that any losses that do result even when we do things correctly, simply means it was time to move on as this situation, person or experience is no longer aligned for your highest good, that all has run its course, or that you are ready to move on to something more fulfilling and aligned as you too have grown from each experience and are now requiring more to fulfill the rest of your time and stay in this Earthly plane.
So even in having explored these examples above, we can see it is painless; yet rather empowering, helpful to see the higher points of view to aid us on your path… rather than with blame or shame, hanging onto painful memories that allows us to feel stuck.
This life was not designed for pass or fail, but rather to constructively, in healthy and balanced ways of fairness, teach us what we came here to learn through various explorations of self within each given opportunity and experience played. That through compassion and patience support ourselves and others as we continually explore, learn, and grow.
Many of us were taught by our schools, elders, life, etc. that when we do something “wrong or incorrectly,” we fail. This set in a precedent that is not only demeaning, but does not truly encourage us or enable us to feel good about ourselves for having at least made the true attempts in trying and doing what we perceived at the time to be our best, or too finding a gentler and more positive approach that by not trying we are only hurting ourselves.
Sadly, many teachers, elders, peers, or our flawed perceptions in life through fear, anger, resentments, etc. alluded us to believing we are given only one way or one solution in order to fit in or appease others, or to resolve the issues at hand. We were not always given the proper time or attention to teach us more than one method, one way of thought how to derive to the conclusions sought. Yet, people are not designed to think just one way or do things one way. Many of us will require a varied approach to formulate their rightful and valued conclusions. Yet by limiting our abilities to find the tools that best works for each of us, allows us to fall short by using just the one formulated measure taught, learned, or adapted to. Thus, we are given a lower mark or a rude awakening rather than helping or positively encouraging us to find an alternative that can also lead to those conclusions sought. If we had learned early on to accept that these so-called mistakes or failures are not wrong or just a part of life, but are essential, necessary, and natural tool we can utilize to aid us in our efforts in realizing there is more than one way to arrive to its conclusion safely and effectively; we can then feel encouraged to go after our successes by our willingness and eagerness to learning new methods and ways as we work with our mistakes to guide us to try again, finding another method that makes more sense. If we had learned this early on in life, we would then have been able to apply those same principles within our daily lives. No longer seeing ourselves as failures, stupid, or not enough to measure up… but rather on our way to success… encouraging and supporting us to keep trying and not give up.
Just think if our scientist, astronomers, medical professions, performing artists, designers and engineers stuck with only one method, formula, or theory. We would not progress very far. For it takes not only several right answers, but also several wrong answers to help us narrow down and find more than meets they eye. Why then should we limit ourselves in our ways of thinking or perceptions in which to learn, grow, evolve. For there is always more than one way to derive to its final conclusion.
Instead of holding in all these deep-seated emotions of regrets or perceived failures or wrong-doings, please take another healthier and much more productive and stable approach to healing. Applying some of these tools already suggested and too in finding those who know how to teach you to heal through such productive tools and measures that will make sense to you and make you feel safe within such beautiful and amazing experiences that we had previously encountered.
Healing should be a fun and enjoyable exploration… not one of fear, resentments, or pain.
Namaste
#healingjourney #healingtrauma #healing #selfawareness #selfdiscovery