When Our Loved Ones or Ourselves Face Adversity…
"As a Holistic counselor and mentor, I am able to see the high-in-sights… the reason for our experiences which may be deemed as "unpleasant" or sometimes "just too much to handle". Yet, there serves a greater purpose for why they occur and from them we learn how we can rise above them with greater understanding, compassion and wisdom. Yet, we are all human and though it is important to honor the human experiences felt, it is often easy for any of us to forget the importance behind those reasons such experiences took place. Thus, instead we choose to focus on the perceived uncertainties and harshness which lies within.
It is this keyword “Empowerment” that we need to look more closely into. "Em" or "En" ~ means into. "Power" ~ meaning ability, strength, courage. "Ment" ~ the means or result of an action. Hence, what we put our power into is the means or the result of that action. Everything in life by design is powerful to aid us into achieving the desired results. As such, we all have come here to experience our fullest potentials. To realize just who and what we truly are. To learn to love, respect and understand ourselves and that of others on a much deeper level than before. There are no limitations as to how such acts or lessons are achieved nor is there time constraints in which we come to fully know and understand the true purposes and meanings of life and all who reside among us.
Yet, the best way we can honor ourselves and one another is to follow our hearts, our passions and our truths with unwavering faith… no matter the oppositions we face or how challenging or impossible it may seem. For within lies our greatest potentials and the opportunities in which to make it all happen. If we were to all give up such dreams or ideals of self, based upon our fears, our lives here would then become meaningless… without purpose. In this, no one wins. Life by design, finds a way to throw us curves, upsets or even failed attempts to help us learn how we actually can rise above and overcome. More so, they are here to remind us to always remain true to our nature and purpose of our intentions, as to not be swayed to mimicking someone else's ideas or ways of being. For only then can we truly appreciate ourselves within this life as well as have the appreciation for others within.
If we were to deny such an existence out of fear... just think of how few the contributions would be given to this life as we know it today. If people failed to follow their dreams or at least attempt to try. Where would we be without these brave acts we encounter along our path and journey to remind us of what is possible and have those rights protected by such acts? To remind us that fear should never over power what we came here to do or be, to not let anyone or anything stand in our way for what we believe is right or standing up to help another.
Let's take a look at these brave souls.....
Thomas Edison. As a Child he was told he was dumb and wouldn't be a success, as his mind was always wandering in class. It literally took him thousands of tries to create the lightbulb. His thoughts...“When you have exhausted all possibilities, remember this - you haven't.”
Elvis Presley. After he tried to join a vocal quartet, he was told " he couldn't sing". His first recording went nowhere and just before he made it big, he was again told "You ain't going nowhere son. You ought to go back to driving a truck." His words..."To judge a man by his weakest link or deed is like judging the power of the ocean by one wave."
Michael Jordan. As Jordan explains it, “I have missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I have lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have been entrusted to take the game winning shot, and I missed. I have failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.” And this coming from a man who is arguably the greatest basketball player ever. He was once even cut from his high school team! Michael's words of wisdom...“I can accept failure, everyone fails at something. But I can't accept not trying.”
Stephen King. Stephen was rejected 30 times for his writings. On his 31st attempt he threw the manuscript out. Thankfully his wife rescued it from the round file and asked him to try one more time. The rest…is history. His words of wisdom... “Writing isn’t about making money, getting famous, getting dates, getting laid, or making friends. In the end, it’s about enriching the lives of those who will read your work, and enriching your own life, as well.”
Fred Astaire. During his first screen test, an RKO executive noted that Astaire, “Can’t sing. Can’t act. Balding. Can dance a little.” Yet, Astaire persevered and ended up becoming one of the top actors, singers and dancers of his generation. His words of wisdom....“What counts more than luck is determination and perseverance. If the talent is there, it will come through. Don't be too impatient. Stick at it. That's my advice. You have to plug away, keep thinking up new ideas. If one doesn't work, try another.” and I have to add this quote too! “If we followed our own advice, we'd be successful.”
Abraham Lincoln. With very little formal education, Lincoln taught himself and became a lawyer and congressman. Lincoln lost the senate election, but really impressed a lot of the “right” people, even with his loss. Two years later he ran for president and won. Thankfully he did not let lack of formal education, initial failure or setbacks rattle him. His words of Wisdom...“I am not bound to win, but I am bound to be true. I am not bound to succeed, but I am bound to live up to what light I have.”
Albert Einstein. Einstein's genius did not come easy. He had speech difficulties as a child and was once even thought to be mentally handicapped. As a teen he rebelled against his school's reliance on rote learning and failed. He tried to test into Zurich Polytechnic, but failed again.
Einstein buckled down, received the requisite training and applied to Zurich Polytechnic again, and of course was accepted. A few years later he had a PHD and was recognized as a leading theorist. A few years after that he had a Nobel prize for physics and began to be recognized as the genius of our modern era. His words of wisdom.... “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution.” and another favorite...“Anyone who has never made a mistake has never tried anything new.”
So my dearest Beloveds, Obstacles are out there. They were placed there by design and purpose of which were meant to be learned from and overcome. There is no worthwhile adventure that will be easy in its undertaking. For everyone who achieves success, faces obstacles. What makes (or breaks) a person’s will is how they react to the obstacles and setbacks in their life and what they chose to do (or not to do) to overcome these challenges life brings.
My favorite Quote "If your dreams do not scare you... they are not big enough... nor are they as full of passion or meaning to you... nor will they be to anyone else.
And one last quote for thought... “Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”
It is such moments as these, that I am truly honored to be a Holistic counselor and be of assistance to all souls who are truly brave and heroic in their own rights for simply being here. For in each one of us offers such a powerful opportunity to play the roles of teachers and as students… reminding us of our purposes here, to keep the faith and keep on going.
So next time, should any of us find fear or concernment in our hearts for what we do or how to live out our purposes, let's remember this page that was created for us all…. that we are far more powerful than any experiences given. We can rise above fear and that no matter what happens in life or what may come… we may raise our heads high in knowing we lived our lives to fullest, the best way we knew how for the greater good of all!
Blessings and light to all and be well.